Sunday, 10 June 2012
Monday, 4 June 2012
Dana Airline shuts Abuja office + 70 bodies recovered from the crash
Dana Airline have shut down their Abuja office. Meanwhile the Lagos State Emergency Management Agency (LASEMA) said more than 70 corpses (bodies unrecognizable) have been recovered from the crash site and deposited at Lagos State University Teaching Hospital. LASEMA boss said the residents of the buildings that the plane struck will be evacuated and taken care of.
Meanwhile the pilot of the Dana Air plane was an American, co-pilot an Indian and the flight engineer from Indonesia. Among the dead are six Chinese citizens.
The pilot declared an emergency as the plane was on final approach to Murtala Muhammed International Airport, and according to witnesses, the plane appeared to be coming in high with its noise up when it crashed, hitting the ground tail first. Continue to see photos from the crash...
Gov Fashola rescues 3 kids whose parents died in Dana Crash
The parents of Joel Okechukwu (11), Chisom Okechukwu (9) and Esther Okechukwu, sent them on an errand yesterday afternoon and a few minutes after the young children left the house, the Dana plane crashed into their home, killing their parents, Jeremiah and Josephine Okechukwu.
The children were this afternoon rescued by Governor Fashola who was at the crash site to inspect the sad incident. The governor asked his aides to take the children to Government House where they will be taken care of until relatives of the children show up. The children were wandering near the crash site when Governor Fashola spotted them and heard their sad story.
Dana Air releases official statement
The Dana Air family is deeply saddened by the tragic loss of the passengers and crew of Flight 9J-992 of Sunday, June 3, 2012. The aircraft, with Registration Number 5N-RAM, departed Abuja for Lagos with 146 passengers onboard. 1 Dana Air Flight Engineer, 2 Pilots and 4 Cabin Crew were also aboard the flight.
We extend our deepest sympathies to the families and friends of the deceased, and we are doing everything we can to assist them in this extremely difficult time. A 24hr Call Centre service has been initiated and we have also set up an information center at MMA2 to look after their needs and keep them as quickly informed as possible.
Air Nigeria Is A Flying Coffin, Former Executive Director Says
John I. Nnorom, a former Executive Director for Finance at Air Nigeria, has warned Nigerians to stop flying the airline until they are sure that its planes are being properly maintained.
In a blistering public petition, Mr. Nnorom, who resigned his appointment with the airline on April 1, 2012, blamed the situation on big businessman Jimoh Ibrahim, the chairman of Air Nigeria, whom he accused of being uninterested in the maintenance of company aircraft.
“Some of the certifying Engineers and I are under threat of assassination by Barrister Jimoh Ibrahim, if we reveal this secret to Nigerians,” he said.Mr. Nnorom said that upon his resignation, he wrote a letter in which he said he preferred to die than to be a witness to over 100 souls perishing in an Air Nigeria aircraft.
WAYS OF LOOSING WEIGHT WITHOUT EXERCISE
Exercising is one important activity that puts many people off from
the effort of losing weight. Understandably because although this
activity is healthy, it is also strenuous and very difficult to form a
habit of doing it regularly.
Most questions I get from very busy persons is how to lose weight without exercising. Yet others want a pill or drink that can magically burn all the fat away from the body. If you have been looking for a way to lose weight without exercise, then this article is a must read for you.
In this article, I have highlighted 7 natural ways to lose weight without actually engaging in any strenuous activity. Here they are.
1. Have Regular Sex
Having sex is a great way to lose weight. Ever wonder why couples who engage in sexual activity sweat a lot? It is because in the process of having a great sex, the rate of your heart beat increases, thereby allowing the burning of calories and fats stored in the body. Blood and oxygen circulation is at its peak to all parts of the body at this point. Scientific studies shows that an average of 150 – 250 calories is burnt every 30 minutes of love making session.
On a personal note, while having sex to lose weight is a natural process of losing weight, it should not be misconstrued as the premise for one to engage in sex when not in a committed relationship.
2. Healthy Sleeping Habit
Studies have shown that people who are sleep deprived are culprit of weight gain. To be healthy and in good mental state, the body needs a good amount of sleep each day or night. When one sleeps, the body uses this period to regulate and heal the wear and tear caused by daily activities. The breaking down of fats and digestive process also happen at this time, thus resulting in the use of calories and energy.
For an adult, sleeping for 6 – 8 hours per night is okay. Sleeping more than 8 – 10 hours every night for an adult can also cause weight gain. So if you want to lose weight, sleep adequately.
3. Engage In Energetic Recreational Activities
While many people are not comfortable with the idea of exercising, they will welcome and actually engage in recreational activities that will help them to have fun and expend energy doing so. Some of the recreational activities that even though is a mild form of an exercise but very enjoyable to do are; Bicycle riding, swimming, chasing your dog or child(ren), playing football with friends, playing golf or tennis and running across the shores of the beach chasing your wife/husband or boy/girl friend.
Creating time for this type of activities once a week, will go a long way in helping one to lose weight and maintain it if doing normal exercises is boring.
4. Drink Lots of Water & Skimmed Milk
One of the best liquids for one to take in much quantity while trying to lose weight is water. The reason is water acts as a detoxifier in the body. The more water you take, the more the toxins and waste in your body is washed out through urine, faeces and sweating and most of the fat burning process is accelerated as water helps to speed up digestion and move blood and oxygen through the body.
All the processes uses energy and fat is burned while this happens.
Studies have also shown that drinking a cup of Skimmed milk with a low calorie diet helps in weight loss as this combination helps in the acceleration of the body’s metabolism which results in the burning of fat. Moreover, milk is a good source of calcium which is one of the micro nutrients needed by the body to perform optimally.
5. Mix Foods With Spices
If you want to experience significant result in weight loss, try adding adequate amount of pepper, onions, garlic and ginger into your foods. Spicing up dishes helps to curb overeating and this results in less calorie intake which should have resulted in weight gain.
In fact, an experiment performed with some overweight people who used spices on their foods showed that they each lost about 15kg of weight within a four month period. The reason is, when foods taste so good and so spicy, one focuses on the taste and eats slower to enjoy a lasting taste of it’s sweetness, this in turn causes one to experience a “fullness” and satisfaction quicker than when these ingredients are not used.
6. Eat Lean Meats
Lean meats include Turkey, Chicken, Fish, Intestines and Sea foods. These types of meat has a higher protein content that are healthy for the body. Thus one is spared of the fat that comes with red meat.
These lean meats should be combined with low calorie diets from legumes and vegetables to get the best combination for a low calorie meal.
7. Eat Less At Night
After 4pm everyday do not take a high calorie food such as Yam, Rice, or Garri. If you must take it, it must be very small in quantity. Your best high calorie meal should be taken in the morning or afternoon. This is because after 4pm, the body is retiring from the day’s work and getting tired. The metabolism or rate of fat burn is reduced, thus taking any high calorie food at this time will leave a lot of it unprocessed as stored fat in the body.
So there you have it. If you want less or no exercise in your daily time table, try implementing the 7 steps above every week and you will not only lose considerable weight over time but maintain it after losing it.
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Most questions I get from very busy persons is how to lose weight without exercising. Yet others want a pill or drink that can magically burn all the fat away from the body. If you have been looking for a way to lose weight without exercise, then this article is a must read for you.
In this article, I have highlighted 7 natural ways to lose weight without actually engaging in any strenuous activity. Here they are.
1. Have Regular Sex
Having sex is a great way to lose weight. Ever wonder why couples who engage in sexual activity sweat a lot? It is because in the process of having a great sex, the rate of your heart beat increases, thereby allowing the burning of calories and fats stored in the body. Blood and oxygen circulation is at its peak to all parts of the body at this point. Scientific studies shows that an average of 150 – 250 calories is burnt every 30 minutes of love making session.
On a personal note, while having sex to lose weight is a natural process of losing weight, it should not be misconstrued as the premise for one to engage in sex when not in a committed relationship.
2. Healthy Sleeping Habit
Studies have shown that people who are sleep deprived are culprit of weight gain. To be healthy and in good mental state, the body needs a good amount of sleep each day or night. When one sleeps, the body uses this period to regulate and heal the wear and tear caused by daily activities. The breaking down of fats and digestive process also happen at this time, thus resulting in the use of calories and energy.
For an adult, sleeping for 6 – 8 hours per night is okay. Sleeping more than 8 – 10 hours every night for an adult can also cause weight gain. So if you want to lose weight, sleep adequately.
3. Engage In Energetic Recreational Activities
While many people are not comfortable with the idea of exercising, they will welcome and actually engage in recreational activities that will help them to have fun and expend energy doing so. Some of the recreational activities that even though is a mild form of an exercise but very enjoyable to do are; Bicycle riding, swimming, chasing your dog or child(ren), playing football with friends, playing golf or tennis and running across the shores of the beach chasing your wife/husband or boy/girl friend.
Creating time for this type of activities once a week, will go a long way in helping one to lose weight and maintain it if doing normal exercises is boring.
4. Drink Lots of Water & Skimmed Milk
One of the best liquids for one to take in much quantity while trying to lose weight is water. The reason is water acts as a detoxifier in the body. The more water you take, the more the toxins and waste in your body is washed out through urine, faeces and sweating and most of the fat burning process is accelerated as water helps to speed up digestion and move blood and oxygen through the body.
All the processes uses energy and fat is burned while this happens.
Studies have also shown that drinking a cup of Skimmed milk with a low calorie diet helps in weight loss as this combination helps in the acceleration of the body’s metabolism which results in the burning of fat. Moreover, milk is a good source of calcium which is one of the micro nutrients needed by the body to perform optimally.
5. Mix Foods With Spices
If you want to experience significant result in weight loss, try adding adequate amount of pepper, onions, garlic and ginger into your foods. Spicing up dishes helps to curb overeating and this results in less calorie intake which should have resulted in weight gain.
In fact, an experiment performed with some overweight people who used spices on their foods showed that they each lost about 15kg of weight within a four month period. The reason is, when foods taste so good and so spicy, one focuses on the taste and eats slower to enjoy a lasting taste of it’s sweetness, this in turn causes one to experience a “fullness” and satisfaction quicker than when these ingredients are not used.
6. Eat Lean Meats
Lean meats include Turkey, Chicken, Fish, Intestines and Sea foods. These types of meat has a higher protein content that are healthy for the body. Thus one is spared of the fat that comes with red meat.
These lean meats should be combined with low calorie diets from legumes and vegetables to get the best combination for a low calorie meal.
7. Eat Less At Night
After 4pm everyday do not take a high calorie food such as Yam, Rice, or Garri. If you must take it, it must be very small in quantity. Your best high calorie meal should be taken in the morning or afternoon. This is because after 4pm, the body is retiring from the day’s work and getting tired. The metabolism or rate of fat burn is reduced, thus taking any high calorie food at this time will leave a lot of it unprocessed as stored fat in the body.
So there you have it. If you want less or no exercise in your daily time table, try implementing the 7 steps above every week and you will not only lose considerable weight over time but maintain it after losing it.
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Sunday, 3 June 2012
HOW FUNKE AKINDELE MET HER HUSBAND
Nollywood actress Funke Akindele
on Saturday
May 26, 2012 tied the knot with her
sweetheart Kenny Almaroof .
The event was packed with lots of Nollywood stars Genevieve
Nnaji, Ini Edo, Sikiratu Sindodo, Desmond Elliot amongst others.
Funke’s wedding was in three phases, private Nikkai ceremony
followed by a little white wedding and the reception which had Dj Spinall and
the shuga band.
Funke giving her vote of thanks said ‘My darling
colleagues and friends I thank you so much for coming out. You are single today
right? Believe in God, he will do it because I’m a testimony. It’s a big
surprise I know to you all and I thank God for this. I won’t throw this, I will
share it‘.
ABOUT FUNKE
She is an actress of repute in the Nigerian movie industry
and one of the influential faces in that industry. She was noticed some years
ago on the popular youth sitcom “I Need To Know”. She is the toast of several
corporate clients as she is a brand ambassador of telecom giant Globacom,
detergent company So Klin, Lagos State Internal Revenue Service (LIRS) and
other brands. She has produced blockbuster hits like Omo Ghetto parts 1 &
2, Ojo Ketala and The Return of Jenifa.
ABOUT OLOYEDE
Mr Kenny Almaroof Oloyede popularly known as Kenny Doo is a
property Developer and a politician. He once contested for the position of
Local Government Chairman and membership of the House of Representatives in two
different elections on the platform of Peoples Democratic Party(PDP). He later
became the Special Assistant to former Minister of Works, Adeseye Ogunlewe.
After serving out his appointment, he returned to Lagos
to focus on his property business and he is now a card carrying member of CN.
HOW THEY MET
Fate played a major role in how Funke and Kenny met.
According to what bebeakinboade.blogspot.com gathered, the lovebirds would not
have met if a colleague of Funke didn’t try pulling some funny strings which
unconsciously brought them together. Apparently, a colleague of Funke pretended
to be her, she got talking to Kenny Oloyede
and the conversations got very deep. Kenny then asked to meet the ‘fake’
Funke Akindele.
Coincidentally, she invited Kenny over on a day Funke was to
be on set, this colleague of hers too was there. When she sensed she couldn’t go on with her prank again, she confessed to Funke Akindele
begging her profusely and told Funke to handle it for her which she refused at
first but later agreed to. One thing led to another after then, they moved into
greater things only for Kenny to resurface again.
LIFE AFTER WEDDING
Funke will continue to act and produce her movies, the two
will move into their Lekki home and she will also be prepared for the role of a
mother and a wife.
'This Is Why You're Not Married' Written by Tracy McMillan
This article was written by Tracy McMillan for Huffington Post. Thing is, Tracy has been married three times, so she's kind of an expert in men, marriage etc. If only she'd had read, How To Get Married and Stay Married when she was much younger...:-). Oh well, read her article and share your thoughts afterwards
This is why you're no married by Tracy McMillan
You’ve never dreamt of an aqua-blue ring box. Then, something happened. Another birthday, maybe. A breakup. Your brother’s wedding. His wife-elect asked you to be a bridesmaid, and suddenly there you were, wondering how in hell you came to be 36-years-old, walking down the aisle wearing something halfway decent from J. Crew that you could totally repurpose with a cute pair of boots and a jean jacket. You started to hate the bride — she was so effing happy — and for the first time ever you began to have feelings about the fact that you’re not married. You never really cared that much before. But suddenly (it was so sudden) you found yourself wondering… Deep, deep breath… Why you’re not married.
Well, I know why.
How? It basically comes down to this: I’ve been married three times. Yes, three. To a very nice MBA at 19; a very nice minister’s son at 32 (and pregnant); and at 40, to a very nice liar and cheater who was just like my dad, if my dad had gone to Harvard instead of doing multiple stints in federal prison.
I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married. Growing up in foster care is a big part of it. The need for security made me look for very specific traits in the men I dated — traits it turns out lead to marriage a surprisingly high percentage of the time. Without really trying to, I’ve become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships — someone who’s had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours.
But I won’t lie. The problem is not men, it’s you. Sure, there are lame men out there, but they’re not really standing in your way. Because the fact is — if whatever you’re doing right now was going to get you married, you’d already have a ring on. So without further ado, let’s look at the top six reasons why you’re not married.
1. You’re a Bitch. Here’s what I mean by bitch. I mean you’re angry. You probably don’t think you’re angry. You think you’re super smart, or if you’ve been to a lot of therapy, that you’re setting boundaries. But the truth is you’re pissed. At your mom. At the military-industrial complex. At Sarah Palin. And it’s scaring men off.
The deal is: most men just want to marry someone who is nice to them. I am the mother of a 13-year-old boy, which is like living with the single-cell protozoa version of a husband. Here’s what my son wants out of life: macaroni and cheese, a video game, and Kim Kardashian. Have you ever seen Kim Kardashian angry? I didn’t think so. You’ve seen Kim Kardashian smile, wiggle, and make a sex tape. Female anger terrifies men. I know it seems unfair that you have to work around a man’s fear and insecurity in order to get married — but actually, it’s perfect, since working around a man’s fear and insecurity is big part of what you’ll be doing as a wife.
2. You’re Shallow. When it comes to choosing a husband, only one thing really, truly matters: character. So it stands to reason that a man’s character should be at the top of the list of things you are looking for, right? But if you’re not married, I already know it isn’t. Because if you were looking for a man of character, you would have found one by now. Men of character are, by definition, willing to commit.
Instead, you are looking for someone tall. Or rich. Or someone who knows what an Eames chair is. Unfortunately, this is not the thinking of a wife. This is the thinking of a teenaged girl. And men of character do not want to marry teenaged girls. Because teenage girls are never happy. And they never feel like cooking, either.
3. You’re a Slut. Hooking up with some guy in a hot tub on a rooftop is fine for the ladies of Jersey Shore — but they’re not trying to get married. You are. Which means, unfortunately, that if you’re having sex outside committed relationships, you will have to stop. Why? Because past a certain age, casual sex is like recreational heroin — it doesn’t stay recreational for long.
That’s due in part to this thing called oxytocin — a bonding hormone that is released when a woman a) nurses her baby and b) has an orgasm — that will totally mess up your casual-sex game. It’s why you can be f**k-buddying with some dude who isn’t even all that great and the next thing you know, you’re totally strung out on him. And you have no idea how it happened. Oxytocin, that’s how it happened. And since nature can’t discriminate between marriage material and Charlie Sheen, you’re going to have to start being way more selective than you are right now.
4. You’re a Liar. It usually goes something like this: you meet a guy who is cute and likes you, but he’s not really available for a relationship. He has some condition that absolutely precludes his availability, like he’s married, or he gets around town on a skateboard. Or maybe he just comes right out and says something cryptic and open to interpretation like, “I’m not really available for a relationship right now.”
You know if you tell him the truth — that you’re ready for marriage — he will stop calling. Usually that day. And you don’t want that. So you just tell him how perfect this is because you only want to have sex for fun! You love having fun sex! And you don’t want to get in a relationship at all! You swear!
About ten minutes later, the oxytocin kicks in. You start wanting more. But you don’t tell him that. That’s your secret — just between you and 22,000 of your closest girlfriends. Instead, you hang around, having sex with him, waiting for him to figure out that he can’t live without you. I have news: he will never “figure” this out. He already knows he can live without you just fine. And so do you. Or you wouldn’t be lying to him in the first place.
5. You’re Selfish. If you’re not married, chances are you think a lot about you. You think about your thighs, your outfits, your naso-labial folds. You think about your career, or if you don’t have one, you think about doing yoga teacher training. Sometimes you think about how marrying a wealthy guy — or at least a guy with a really, really good job — would solve all your problems.
Howevs, a good wife, even a halfway decent one, does not spend most of her day thinking about herself. She has too much s**t to do, especially after having kids. This is why you see a lot of celebrity women getting husbands after they adopt. The kids put the woman on notice: Bitch, hello! It’s not all about you anymore! After a year or two of thinking about someone other than herself, suddenly, Brad Pitt or Harrison Ford comes along and decides to significantly other her. Which is also to say — if what you really want is a baby, go get you one. Your husband will be along shortly. Motherhood has a way of weeding out the lotharios.
6. You’re Not Good Enough. Oh, I don’t think that. You do. I can tell because you’re not looking for a partner who is your equal. No, you want someone better than you are: better looking, better family, better job.
Here is what you need to know: You are enough right this minute. Period. Not understanding this is a major obstacle to getting married, since women who don’t know their own worth make terrible wives. Why? You can fake it for a while, but ultimately you won’t love your spouse any better than you love yourself. Smart men know this.
I see this at my son’s artsy, progressive school. Of 183 kids, maybe six have moms who are as cute as you’re trying to be. They’re attractive, sure. They’re just not objects. Their husbands (wisely) chose them for their character, not their cup size.
Alright, so that’s the bad news. The good news is that I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You’re just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won’t. Once the initial high wears off, you’ll just be you, except with twice as much laundry.
Because ultimately, marriage is not about getting something — it’s about giving it. Strangely, men understand this more than we do. Probably because for them marriage involves sacrificing their most treasured possession — a free-agent penis — and for us, it’s the culmination of a princess fantasy so universal, it built Disneyland.
The bottom line is that marriage is just a long-term opportunity to practice loving someone even when they don’t deserve it. Because most of the time, your messy, farting, macaroni-and-cheese eating man will not be doing what you want him to. But as you give him love anyway — because you have made up your mind to transform yourself into a person who is practicing being kind, deep, virtuous, truthful, giving, and most of all, accepting of your own dear self — you will find that you will experience the very thing you wanted all along:
Love.
Tracy McMillan is a TV writer whose credits include Mad Men and The United States of Tara. Her memoir I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway is now available in paperback from Harper Collins/It Books. She lives in Los Angeles with her 13-year-old son.
This is why you're no married by Tracy McMillan
You want to get married. It’s taken a while to admit it. Saying it out loud — even in your mind — feels kind of desperate, kind of unfeminist, kind of definitely not you, or at least not any you that you recognize. Because you’re hardly like those girls on TLC saying yes to the dress and you would never compete for a man like those poor actress-wannabes on The Bachelor.Continue reading...
You’ve never dreamt of an aqua-blue ring box. Then, something happened. Another birthday, maybe. A breakup. Your brother’s wedding. His wife-elect asked you to be a bridesmaid, and suddenly there you were, wondering how in hell you came to be 36-years-old, walking down the aisle wearing something halfway decent from J. Crew that you could totally repurpose with a cute pair of boots and a jean jacket. You started to hate the bride — she was so effing happy — and for the first time ever you began to have feelings about the fact that you’re not married. You never really cared that much before. But suddenly (it was so sudden) you found yourself wondering… Deep, deep breath… Why you’re not married.
Well, I know why.
How? It basically comes down to this: I’ve been married three times. Yes, three. To a very nice MBA at 19; a very nice minister’s son at 32 (and pregnant); and at 40, to a very nice liar and cheater who was just like my dad, if my dad had gone to Harvard instead of doing multiple stints in federal prison.
I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married. Growing up in foster care is a big part of it. The need for security made me look for very specific traits in the men I dated — traits it turns out lead to marriage a surprisingly high percentage of the time. Without really trying to, I’ve become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships — someone who’s had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours.
But I won’t lie. The problem is not men, it’s you. Sure, there are lame men out there, but they’re not really standing in your way. Because the fact is — if whatever you’re doing right now was going to get you married, you’d already have a ring on. So without further ado, let’s look at the top six reasons why you’re not married.
1. You’re a Bitch. Here’s what I mean by bitch. I mean you’re angry. You probably don’t think you’re angry. You think you’re super smart, or if you’ve been to a lot of therapy, that you’re setting boundaries. But the truth is you’re pissed. At your mom. At the military-industrial complex. At Sarah Palin. And it’s scaring men off.
The deal is: most men just want to marry someone who is nice to them. I am the mother of a 13-year-old boy, which is like living with the single-cell protozoa version of a husband. Here’s what my son wants out of life: macaroni and cheese, a video game, and Kim Kardashian. Have you ever seen Kim Kardashian angry? I didn’t think so. You’ve seen Kim Kardashian smile, wiggle, and make a sex tape. Female anger terrifies men. I know it seems unfair that you have to work around a man’s fear and insecurity in order to get married — but actually, it’s perfect, since working around a man’s fear and insecurity is big part of what you’ll be doing as a wife.
2. You’re Shallow. When it comes to choosing a husband, only one thing really, truly matters: character. So it stands to reason that a man’s character should be at the top of the list of things you are looking for, right? But if you’re not married, I already know it isn’t. Because if you were looking for a man of character, you would have found one by now. Men of character are, by definition, willing to commit.
Instead, you are looking for someone tall. Or rich. Or someone who knows what an Eames chair is. Unfortunately, this is not the thinking of a wife. This is the thinking of a teenaged girl. And men of character do not want to marry teenaged girls. Because teenage girls are never happy. And they never feel like cooking, either.
3. You’re a Slut. Hooking up with some guy in a hot tub on a rooftop is fine for the ladies of Jersey Shore — but they’re not trying to get married. You are. Which means, unfortunately, that if you’re having sex outside committed relationships, you will have to stop. Why? Because past a certain age, casual sex is like recreational heroin — it doesn’t stay recreational for long.
That’s due in part to this thing called oxytocin — a bonding hormone that is released when a woman a) nurses her baby and b) has an orgasm — that will totally mess up your casual-sex game. It’s why you can be f**k-buddying with some dude who isn’t even all that great and the next thing you know, you’re totally strung out on him. And you have no idea how it happened. Oxytocin, that’s how it happened. And since nature can’t discriminate between marriage material and Charlie Sheen, you’re going to have to start being way more selective than you are right now.
4. You’re a Liar. It usually goes something like this: you meet a guy who is cute and likes you, but he’s not really available for a relationship. He has some condition that absolutely precludes his availability, like he’s married, or he gets around town on a skateboard. Or maybe he just comes right out and says something cryptic and open to interpretation like, “I’m not really available for a relationship right now.”
You know if you tell him the truth — that you’re ready for marriage — he will stop calling. Usually that day. And you don’t want that. So you just tell him how perfect this is because you only want to have sex for fun! You love having fun sex! And you don’t want to get in a relationship at all! You swear!
About ten minutes later, the oxytocin kicks in. You start wanting more. But you don’t tell him that. That’s your secret — just between you and 22,000 of your closest girlfriends. Instead, you hang around, having sex with him, waiting for him to figure out that he can’t live without you. I have news: he will never “figure” this out. He already knows he can live without you just fine. And so do you. Or you wouldn’t be lying to him in the first place.
5. You’re Selfish. If you’re not married, chances are you think a lot about you. You think about your thighs, your outfits, your naso-labial folds. You think about your career, or if you don’t have one, you think about doing yoga teacher training. Sometimes you think about how marrying a wealthy guy — or at least a guy with a really, really good job — would solve all your problems.
Howevs, a good wife, even a halfway decent one, does not spend most of her day thinking about herself. She has too much s**t to do, especially after having kids. This is why you see a lot of celebrity women getting husbands after they adopt. The kids put the woman on notice: Bitch, hello! It’s not all about you anymore! After a year or two of thinking about someone other than herself, suddenly, Brad Pitt or Harrison Ford comes along and decides to significantly other her. Which is also to say — if what you really want is a baby, go get you one. Your husband will be along shortly. Motherhood has a way of weeding out the lotharios.
6. You’re Not Good Enough. Oh, I don’t think that. You do. I can tell because you’re not looking for a partner who is your equal. No, you want someone better than you are: better looking, better family, better job.
Here is what you need to know: You are enough right this minute. Period. Not understanding this is a major obstacle to getting married, since women who don’t know their own worth make terrible wives. Why? You can fake it for a while, but ultimately you won’t love your spouse any better than you love yourself. Smart men know this.
I see this at my son’s artsy, progressive school. Of 183 kids, maybe six have moms who are as cute as you’re trying to be. They’re attractive, sure. They’re just not objects. Their husbands (wisely) chose them for their character, not their cup size.
Alright, so that’s the bad news. The good news is that I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You’re just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won’t. Once the initial high wears off, you’ll just be you, except with twice as much laundry.
Because ultimately, marriage is not about getting something — it’s about giving it. Strangely, men understand this more than we do. Probably because for them marriage involves sacrificing their most treasured possession — a free-agent penis — and for us, it’s the culmination of a princess fantasy so universal, it built Disneyland.
The bottom line is that marriage is just a long-term opportunity to practice loving someone even when they don’t deserve it. Because most of the time, your messy, farting, macaroni-and-cheese eating man will not be doing what you want him to. But as you give him love anyway — because you have made up your mind to transform yourself into a person who is practicing being kind, deep, virtuous, truthful, giving, and most of all, accepting of your own dear self — you will find that you will experience the very thing you wanted all along:
Love.
Tracy McMillan is a TV writer whose credits include Mad Men and The United States of Tara. Her memoir I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway is now available in paperback from Harper Collins/It Books. She lives in Los Angeles with her 13-year-old son.
DANA PLANE CRASH: President Goodluck Jonathan Declares Three Days Of National Mourning For Crash Victims
President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan has declared a three-day period of national mourning for victims the Dana plane crash in Lagos today [June 3].
In a statement on the incident by
his spokesman, Reuben Abati, President Jonathan who has cancelled all his
public engagements scheduled for tomorrow, has also directed that the Nigerian
flag be flown at half-mast for the three days of national mourning.
He has ordered full investigation
into the crash.
In compliance with the President’s
directive, Abati said the Minister of
Aviation, Princess Stella Oduah has already left Abuja for Lagos to oversee the
crash investigations and present an interim report to the federal government as
soon as possible.
While condoning with the families
of all those who lost their lives in the
plane crash, the President noted that the incident has sadly plunged the nation
into further sorrow on a day when Nigerians were already in grief over the loss
of many other innocent lives in the church bombing in Bauchi State.
President Jonathan assured air
travellers in the country that every possible effort will be made to ensure
that the right lessons are learnt from the tragic loss of valuable lives in
today’s plane crash and that further measures will be put in place to boost
aviation safety in the country.
IMAGES FROM THE CRASH SCENE:
TRAILERS FIRE ACCIDENT ON LAG IB EXPRESS
Scene of the accident yesterday
The sad event happened around 2am yesterday Saturday June 2nd on the
Lagos-Ibadan expressway. A tanker carrying fuel fell, caught fire, and
at least 24 vehicles around it got burnt.
Fortunately no one died (according to the FRSC). The accident left thousands of passengers stranded on the road for over 7 hours.
Bomb blast at Living Faith Church Bauchi kills 12
12 people have reportedly been killed following a suicide bomb attack at Living Faith Church, Bauchi, this morning.
The suicide attacker, who was also killed in the blast, targeted
worshipers of Living Faith Church, located near the airport in Bauchi,
as they left the church after service.
At least 30 people were injured in the blast. No group has claimed responsibility for the attack
At least 30 people were injured in the blast. No group has claimed responsibility for the attack
DANA PLANE CRASH: The Manifest Released - On Board - Levi Ajuonuma etc
Former broadcaster and NNPC General Manager, Corporate Affairs, Dr Levi Ajuonuma was on board the ill fated fatal Dana plane. If you don't know who Levi is, please Google him.
5 members of Staff of Nigerian University Commissions (NUC) and Ehime Aikhomu, son of former Vice President, Late Admiral Augustus Aikhomu, were also on board.
I have quite a number of names and photos of those who died, but waiting for manifest from Dana.
Meanwhile President Jonathan has declared three days of mourning for those who lost their lives. He also asked that the Nigerian flag be flown at half mast for the three days.
Names on the Diana Airline manifest
Before departure this afternoon
Onyeka Anyene; Hurria Lawal; Maimuna Anyene; Bakisumiadi Yindadi; Ebuka Enuma; Oluchi Onyeyiri; Sunday Enuma; George Moses; Ogechi Njoku; Noah Anyene; Kamsiyona Anyene; Stanford Obrutse; Kaiyenotochi Anyene; Okeke Hope; Rev. Ayodeji Cole; Ngozi Cole; Noah Anyene; Ailende Ehi; Oluwasegun Funmi Abiodun; and Shehu Sahad Usman, Alade Martins; Onita Jennifer (Mrs); Onita Josephine; Ike Ochonogo; Joy Alison; John Ahmadu; Akowe Fatokun Anjola; Fatokun Olaoluwa; Fatokun Ibukun; Buhari Maikudi; Amina Idris Bugaje; Ajani Adenle; IkeAbugu; Adijolola Abraham; Obot Emmanuel; Otegbeye Hadiza; Ehioghae Sunny; Onwuriri Celestine; Abikalio Otatoru; Noris Kim; Eyo Bassey; Njoku Charles; Anibaba Tosin; Okocha Christopher; Sobowale Femi; and Phillip Chukwu Ebuka, Sparagano Lawrence; Somolu Oluwakemi; Ariyibi Temitope; Meche Eke; Ojugbana Amaka; Ojugbana Christopher; Buna Walter; Coker Olumide; Lilian Lass; Mutittir Itsifanus; Yusuf Alli; Lt. Col. Jumbo Ochigbo; Eribake Wale; Zhai Shuta; Wang Yu; P. Awani; O. Awani; N. Chidiac; Rijoel Dhose; Li Hizha; Apochi Godwin; Lang Yi; Yinusa Ahmed; Faysal Inusa; Mojekwu Adaobi; Ibrahim D; Bamaiyi Adamu; Ifekowa Jones; Peter Nosike; Anthony Nwaokocha; Mahmud Aliyu; Nnadi John; Akweze Elizabeth; Dorothy Adedunni; Echeidu Ibe; Maria Okulehi; Jennifer Ibe; Okoko junjip; Sarah Mshelia; Ahmed Mbana; Okonji Patrick; Oyosoro Rajuli; Oyosoro Ugbabio; Kaikai Farida; David Kolawole Fortune; Eyinoluwa David Kolawole; Kaltum Abubakar; and Dakawa Mahmud. Patience Sunday Udoh; Asuquo Iniebong; Onemonelese Aimeihi; Onyeagocha Chidinma; Onyeagocha Ogechi; Ike Okoye; Amaka Raphael; Ijeoma Onyinjuke; Garba Abdul; Aisha Abdul; Benson Oluwayomi; Anthony7 Opara; Taiwo Lamidi; Awodogan Olusanmi; Obi Chinwe; Shaibu Memuna; Major I.G Mohammed; Nagidi Ibrahim; Attah Anthonia; Shaibu Sam; Ifeanyi Orakwe; Obinna Akubueze; Li Rui; Xie Zhenfeng; Oko Eseoghene; Chukwuemeka Okere; Adetunbi Adebiyi; Ibrahim Mantakari; Was Ruth; Wasa Awiyetu; Ojukwu Alvana; Lawal Anakobe; Nabil Garba; Mohammed Falmata; Ibrahim Jangana; Okikiolu Olukayode; Komolafe Olugbenga; Dike Chinwe; Dike Chike Ezugo; Olusola Arokoyo; Adetola Ayoola; Akinola Olumodeji; Olukoya Banji Saka Otaru; Adeleke Oluwadamilare; Yusuf Ibrahim; Ikpohi Obiola; Aikhomu Ehimen; Levi Ajuonuma; Mbong Eventus.
Diana Airline crashed
OMG! A commercial plane belonging to Dana Airlines has just crashed at the Iju/Ishaga area of Lagos a few minutes ago. The plane was carrying 152 passengers and was coming from Abuja. Eye witnesses say the plane crashed into houses and human beings are burning at the scene of the crash.
Update: NCAA has just confirmed that there were no survivors. Such a sad day for Nigeria!
Also heard that the plane that crashed today was the same plane that had landing gear problem in Uyo a couple of weeks back. It gave signs, but the airline didn't do anything about it. What a shame!
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