Friday, 21 December 2012

GAY BIBLE: “Queen James Version” - World’s First “Gay Bible” Published…Changes Translation Of Key Same-Sex Passages


Check out Comedienne Helen Paul's new look

Just in: Nkiru Sylvanus and Kenneth Okolie released by kidnappers

 

What a relief! And thanks for all your prayers. Actress Nkiru Sylvanus and ex-Mr Nigeria Kenneth Okolie have been freed by their kidnappers. Nkiru and Kenneth were released less than an hour ago in Owerri. The kidnappers blindfolded them and dropped them off at an unknown location where they were able to call friends to come pick them up. No details on whether they paid a ransom. Great news!

Fire outbreak at Murtala Mohammed International Airport

All workers and passengers have been evacuated while fire fighters work to extinguish the fire. Nobody knows for now what caused the fire. More details soon...

Wednesday, 7 November 2012

When Does a Relationship Actually Begin?

 



So we’re all familiar with the idea of the wedding. You know, the grand ceremony where a couple avow their intention to remain married to each other for better for worse, for richer for poorer, for fairer or uglier, and so on, before friends, family and the whole world. It’s such a public declaration that there can be no doubt in anyone’s mind as to when exactly the marriage started.

Of course, this is not the beginning of the story of the couple. Even before the marriage, there is another defining milestone of the journey that they have travelled together – the engagement. The occasion may be a quiet one involving nothing more than a heartfelt request made on bended knee. Or it could something more dramatic involving fighter jets, parachutists and coloured smoke. Whichever way it happens, at the end of it, the couple have agreed to get married at some not too distant date in the future.

But we still have to go beyond the engagement to find out where the story begins... and here, things become somewhat murky. Did the story start when she noticed the way he smiled at her at work? Or was it when he studied her shapely curves and declared them good? Perhaps it was when they agreed – just as friends – to go out for a meal together? The reality is that what should be the true defining moment of the relationship is hard to pin down.

Now, some of you will say that if a point in time has to be picked, it might as well start from the point where the man (yes, it’s still usually the man) asks the girl if she would like them to start ‘going out’ together, and she says yes. This sounds a very reasonable proposition, since, like the engagement and the marriage, there’s a definite asking and accepting.

The trouble is that even this event does not always occur in relationships. For example, I recall the story of someone I know who was going out with this girl. I say ‘going out’, because I’m not even sure if I can say that they were boyfriend and girlfriend. From all indications, they started out as acquaintances, since they moved in the same circles. Then, bit by bit, they began spending more time together, visiting each other at home, holding hands, kissing, and pretty much doing all the things that boyfriends and girlfriends do.

Yet, when I asked this guy whether he and the girl were together/an item, he said that no, that was not the case. As far as he knew, he hadn’t asked her out, and she hadn’t asked him about the status of their relationship, so he was happy to assume it was what it had always been – a friendship.

But you do all the things that boyfriends and girlfriends do, I said, like kissing; doesn’t that make you a couple?

No, he replied. Which law states that ordinary friends cannot kiss?

Well, I had no answer to that. It felt strange, but I could only conclude that since they were both getting what they wanted out of the relationship, who was I to open my big mouth? However, they later split up and one of the girl's complaints to me was that the relationship was never defined and that was why it did not take off.

Now I know there are some people for whom that is how it works. Nothing is ever defined and yet they end up married one day without any of them having to say anything. Not even an engagement.

So I’m still confused. When exactly does a relationship start? Should the man always ask specifically for dating/courtship? Should the lady ask to be exclusive for the relationship to really begin? Must there be a ceremony to celebrate this most important of moments? Or maybe it doesn’t matter, and the very mystery of the start of the relationship is part of its appeal?

ONDO GUBER POLL: Pastor Enoch Adeboye Described Gov Mimiko’s Re-Election As Clean, Transparent & Peaceful


*Pastor Enoch Adeboye * *Via Vanguard:* *THE General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye, has described the re-election of the Ondo State governor, Dr. Olusegun Mimiko, as clean, transparent and peaceful.* ** *The clergyman made the remark in a congratulatory message by his Special Assistant on Administration and Personnel, Pastor Johnson Odesola, to the governor and the entire people of Ondo State, yesterday.* *He maintained that the re-election of Mimiko was indeed a landslide victory, saying, “So overwhelming that everyone agrees that the results was a true and accurate expression of the voters choice.
 adeboye stated that the entire family of the RCCG is proud of mimiko's honesty, transparency, dedication and hardwork in his first term in office and wishes he continues with that light and with the fear of God, with the second term.